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Share via Email In terms of vision, it's important that a potential headteacher and school governors are all rowing in the same direction. It was a bit of a false start as I actually withdrew the application after visiting the school.
This is no reflection on the school, which was excellent, but I hadn't fully thought through uprooting my whole family and moving to a different part of the country. My next applications were more considered. After not getting through to the second day for the first post I interviewed for, I was the only person taken through to the second day at St.
Mary's Catholic Collegewhere I have served as headteacher for the last 13 years. Here is my advice for those applying for the first time.
Make sure your vision matches the school It's interesting to reflect back on the only two experiences I have of being interviewed for a headship. The feedback from the first school was that they thought I was far too radical in my thinking and not in touch with reality. They may have been right.
Mary's, however, they were looking for a leader who would help develop a new vision for the school and lead it into the 21st century. If the two aren't aligned it will be like being in a boat with everyone rowing in a different direction — meaning the governors and headteacher are in for a torrid time.
Governing bodies aren't always confident in articulating their own vision, but they do know an engaging and inspiring one when they hear it. If you can't articulate your vision to a friend or relative — or to yourself in the mirror — you are not yet ready to lead a school. You can't ever be truly prepared — but you'll learn With the exception of vision, I think that you have to accept that there is no preparation for headship quite like actually being a headteacher.
What I knew about premises and finance when I became a headteacher, you could write on the back of an envelope — and a not very big one at that.
Another worry for applicants can be personnel issues that go beyond the difficult conversation into formal procedures. Outside of a few difficult meetings where I had been alongside the headteacher as a "professional development opportunity", again my experience was limited.
Remember to follow the policy, make sure you have a good HR provider and be calm and balanced in your approach.
You will grow in confidence with experience in time. Headship is a team game I hope we have eventually given up on the myth of the heroic headteacher who gallops in to save the day single-handed. Headship is now more about the team than simply the individual. Make sure you meet the senior leadership team of the school you are applying for, and consider whether this is a group you can work with.
I would tend to keep it social and just get a feel for the group and start to build the relationships. Most of all, be yourself; this is what you bring to genuine and authentic leadership, and it has already got you to deputy headship.
Make fewer but better applications A few high quality applications are more likely to succeed that trying to send in a generic application for lots of headships. This is a major decision and you have to get it right. Research the school well, visit it prior to applying if you can and make sure the application is totally tailored to the school.
We recently appointed three assistant headteachers at St. All of them, along with a number of other potential applicants, visited the school before applying and took the time to write highly personalised letters.
These are the people you want working at your school, these are the type of people you want leading your school. Interview days This is likely to be a pretty gruelling few days with a series of panel interviews, data tasks and presentations.
I was successfully interviewed for the executive headship of St. Mary's Catholic College and Christ the King Catholic Primary School earlier this year, but I had no idea how many other candidates would be invited for interview.
The poor governors may have had to listen to presentations all afternoon. I wanted to make the point that, if we wanted to be outstanding, we were going to have to do something different and that the skills I had acquired as a secondary headteacher would be transferable to the executive headteacher role.
The opening two minutes of my presentation was a card sort of the characteristics of outstanding primary and secondary schools taken from two Ofsted documents. It was only after they had sorted them into a couple of groups and noticed all the repetition that I explained where they had come from.
I was doing something different while showing them my skills are transferable. Please don't fall into the trap of gimmicks, but look for the opportunity to let your light shine out from the crowd.
If you're not successful then maybe it just wasn't the job for you. Remember to learn from each experience and keep a record of questions asked and tasks given. And good luck — I hope the right school is out there for you.
Previously he was headteacher of St.
Mary's Catholic College, Blackpool for the past 13 years.What The Bible Says About Submission in Marriage. What is the definition of submission?
It is yielding to another's desires without resistance. Submission to another's wishes is an attitude of the heart done willingly, while surrender is yielding by being forced to do so.
Women in Ministry This blog is for dialogue on the issue of women in ministry and the freedom for women to teach the bible in a public setting.
Sep 28, · Paul forbids women to teach as the leaders of the church because this would place them in a headship role of authority of men. This role is inappropriate for women, says Paul, not because they are less capable or competent than men, but because of the creational order for men and women established by God (I Tim.
). Job tips for teachers: how to write a winning application From personal statements to knowing a school, a panel of teachers and heads reveal what they look for in CVs and covering letter. seems a long time ago – but it was then that I made my first application for a headship.
It was a bit of a false start as I actually withdrew the application after visiting the school. Headship in marriage today Imagine the practical application of this theology in marriage.
A husband in a position of biblical headship is responsible to be the fountain of selflessness for his family.